Tips for Parents
Helping Your Child Succeed in Middle School
Research shows that early adolescence (the middle school years) is one of several critical periods in your child’s life. It is during this time that children need adult help the most. Schools and parents both have important roles to play in helping middle school children. But, every study finds that parents have the biggest influence.
Some parents are already so busy that they wonder when they can find the extra time to help their kids. Here are some tips on how you can find the time.
Use car time You spend a lot of time in the car alone with your child. It’s a wonderful time to have meaningful conversations and real influence on your child.
Set priorities: Sit down and list what’s truly important to you (odds are, it’s your kids). Then consciously decide how to spend your time. Make sure your decisions reflect what really matters.
Spend one-on-one time “Quality” time is a deceptive myth. What children really need is “Quantity” time with parents. They need time to talk with you. Time to see and hear how you would apply your experience and your values to the problems they face. There’s nothing like spending time alone with a parent to make a child of any age feel special.
- Exchange notes with your child: Notes are a great way for busy parents to keep the lines of communication open with your child while building self-esteem and showing how much you love them.
Remember: five years from now, your kids won’t remember the night you left the dishes in the sink. But, they’ll treasure forever the memory of the time you took to be with them.